On the Journey to Pentecost
The Road to There
Forgiveness from the heart that is surrendered to Y’Shua haMashiach is not a stroll through the park; there are many circumstances and situations that work very hard to keep the door to our heart closed. (Refer to Revelation 3:20) One of these, I believe, is bullying. Were you ever bullied as a child? Have you experienced bullying as an adult? Are you a bully? I believe bullying is one major factor that works to keep the door of our heart closed. A key to overcoming this wearisome spirit is to pray for revelation as to whether or not you are a bully, a victim of bullying or both. Pray that YHVH will break down your “denial defense” that works so hard to keep you from overcoming so you can know the truth – which will set you free.
When someone domineers, menaces, browbeats, threatens, is quarrelsome, overbearing or arrogant they are most likely a bully. If this person happens to be a parent, that parent’s child either learns to protect itself from the bullying or they follow their parent’s footsteps and become a bully. Protecting one’s self from bullying often means isolating; you learn to be a turtle, going into your shell whenever you feel threatened or coerced. This often makes the bully more dominate or overbearing. Many children, to get away from a bully will run and hide, or get lost in a book, or be moody, or become silent as in non-communicative, or begin acting out less than desirable behaviors. They have a hard time developing lasting friendships and spend much of their life cowering, adrift in a raft on the open sea, a sad and lonely life. Even if one marries and has children most likely there is no real communication for these skills were not developed during childhood. The angry, frustrated tears of childhood become the agonized, despondent tears of adulthood; confrontation is answered by teary-eyed emotion, or isolating, or silence, or moodiness, or even with threats and/or aggression. The role model of childhood becomes the point of reference for adult relationships whether in these relationships there is a bully or not. The bullied child/adult perceives everyone is a bully to some degree or other and can really trust no one. The door to their heart is shut tight. It’s everyone else’s fault, if only they would love me more, or not take me for granted, or cherish me, or pay attention to me or honor me, or just love me for who I am. But there’s a problem; people respond to the image you project of yourself – if you project the image of being bullied, you will be bullied. It’s like you have a target painted on your chest that says in bright red, flashing letters, “Bully Me”, or reject me, or abandon or despise or ridicule or treat me like a prostitute; what is sown in us will grow and be reaped.
So how does one get out of this vicious cycle?
In Daniel 3 we find the story of Nebuchadnezzar’s golden image. Continuing the story from vs. 4-6; “Then an herald cried aloud, To you it is commanded, O people, nations, and languages, that at what time you hear the sound of the cornet, flute, harp, bagpipe, psaltery, dulcimer, and all kinds of music, you fall down and worship the golden image that Nebuchadnezzar the king has set up: and whoso falls not down and worships shall the same hour be cast into the midst of a burning fiery furnace.” This, I believe is one of scripture’s finest examples of bullying in the extreme. The story continues with Nebuchadnezzar being told that certain Jews are not complying with the King’s command: Dan 3:12-15; “There are certain Jews whom thou hast set over the affairs of the province of Babylon, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego; these men, O king, have not regarded thee: they serve not thy gods, nor worship the golden image which thou hast set up. Then Nebuchadnezzar in his rage and fury commanded to bring Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. Then they brought these men before the king. Nebuchadnezzar spoke and said unto them, Is it true, O Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, do not you serve my gods, nor worship the golden image which I have set up? Now if you be ready that at what time you hear the sound of the cornet, flute, harp, bagpipe, psaltery, and dulcimer, and all kinds of music, you fall down and worship the image which I have made; well: but if you worship not, you shall be cast the same hour into the midst of a burning fiery furnace; and who is that God that shall deliver you out of my hands?”
Dan 3:16-18; “Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, answered and said to the king, O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to give you an answer concerning this matter. If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and he will deliver us out of thine hand, O king. But if not, be it known unto thee, O king, that we will not serve thy gods, nor worship the golden image which thou hast set up.”
Like the three men of this story in the book of Daniel those who are bullied need to learn not to cower in the threat of adversity, but to be a witness of YHVH’s love and power. A person that is either a bully or is bullied cannot effectively live in the admonition of this scripture though without the indwelling presence of the Ruach haKodesh/Holy Spirit. When you invite the Ruach to come and direct your life you will be changed and you will continue to change – becoming more and more a reflection of Y’Shua as day by day under the Ruach’s care you surrender more and more of your life and control to the Ruach’s influence, which makes Philippians 2:3-4 more and more possible; “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than yourself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” With YHVH All things are possible!
The woman is the “keeper of the light” in her home. It is her task to make sure that no defilement comes into the home. Her children are a treasure given to her by YHVH to raise in holy awe of YHVH. For a woman that has grown up suffering the effects of bullying this is almost an impossible task; just as it is an almost impossible task for a man that has grown up in a bullying household to fulfill his role as priest of his home. The cycle of bullying and being bullied can only be broken as we realize that YHVH brought the woman forth from the man to be his equal – neither above him nor beneath him, but to stand at his side as his equal. This is related very well in the 31st chapter of Proverbs which we will discuss in the next post.